now that joker’s in super smash, you know what that means….
im waiting for you, frisk
twitter is a piece of shit for the record really glad we’re all moving there
something that’s really fucked up to me and really makes like… so many arguments in fandom sphere fall flat for me is like. i see abuse happen all the time on the daily people are constantly abusing one another treating each other shittily in toxic parent-child relationships or romantic relationships all around me
BUT no, i shouldn’t write that in fiction!
It’s so jarring to me, I’m sorry. and most of the time it’s this… it just feels like people’s protections care so much more significantly about whether a fictional character is getting abused than a real person and it’s frustrating for me.
and people will argue, ah well it should just apply to ships, but romantic relationship abuse happens all the time it is not insignificant in people’s lives they should be able to write about it. so frustrating! im constantly frustrated by the way abuse has been discussed in fandom spaces so that people will 1. either advocate abusive relationships aren’t abusive to avoid being perceived negatively 2. or lambast anyone who does want to discuss abusive fictional relationships and call them ‘sick’
where are you getting your stats? what source of information brought you to this conclusion? none I assume, but I would love for you to prove me wrong.
It’s literally a hyper link to the study
“Chamberlain and his team found that although overall divorce rates of couples with one seriously ill spouse were comparable to the general divorce rate in the US, there was a marked difference depending on which partner had received the diagnosis. In cases where the husband became seriously ill, divorce rates were actually far lower than average at three per cent. However, a staggering 21 per cent of wives who had been diagnosed with serious illness ended up separated or divorced within the same time frame.
In fact, Chamberlain’s study revealed that in ninety per cent of post-diagnosis divorce cases, the wife was the sick party. The researchers suggested that a possible explanation for this striking difference could be that men find it harder to take on a care-giving role.”
WHAT THE FUCK!?!? this is goddamn horrifying.
“Find it harder to take on a care-giving role.”
Bullshit.
They don’t want the burden of a sick wife who won’t be taking care of them. Like good ‘ol “sanctity of marriage” Newt Gingrich divorcing his wife who developed cancer.
I always want to point out that not abandoning your wife is the lowest possible bar, and husbands who don’t do it are unfortunately not necessarily supportive beyond this bare minimum—I once read a blog article by a guy who volunteered at a breast cancer resource centre (he was their first male volunteer, ever) and who wrote, about the boutique where the women tried on wigs:
Many clients came in with female family members or friends. These clients only came in with female family members or friends. During my two years at the center, I never once saw a client go into the boutique with a husband or male relative. I asked the staff about it. One manager said, “Same as the volunteers: guys won’t go near the wigs. Guys are wimps.” Sometimes a woman would come in for a wig… nervous, uncomfortable…and she’d get help from me or the staff, total strangers… and you could see her husband out in the parking lot… sitting in the car, listening to the radio; they couldn’t even come inside.
I’m also reminded of that study on organ donation rates across Europe, that found that among married hetero couples, 36% of women who could donate a kidney to their husband did so, while only 6.5% of clinically suitable men donate a kidney to their wives.
honestly if tumblr does die like a good 75% of twitter users are screwed cause they’ve been ripping off posts from here and blocking everyone who calls them out
every thinkpiece on Twitter, BuzzFeed, mic and a BUNCH of other websites is ripped off content from here. but people just think everyone on this website is a whiny loser
‘tumblr ancients know this site won’t die’ look. ive been here since 2011, and before that i was on lj. it depends what you mean by ‘die’. will the site exist? yes. but it will be dead. it is turning into a husk of itself. it has betrayed its userbase. i’ve felt similar betrayal with both livejournal and delicious, and to summarize (this is from 2013!)
“Breakups are really hard both on communities and on sites, like when a tight‐knit community chooses to leave they really all go in one piece. Delicious, the whole thing was like a stampede away from it. Not everybody came to Pinboard, but pretty much everybody left Delicious. And this is kind of an irrevocable thing. When your site loses a community, they’re not going to come back easily because there’s such a high activation energy barrier to them leaving in the first place, you really have to exasperate them. In that way it’s a lot like human relationships. Once you move out from your spouse’s house, it’s probably because you really can’t take it anymore.“
also if anyone wants to give the article a read it’s here. it’s a good article, it’s very relevant, and the dude who wrote the article is considering writing a new website for fans (currently) because people have asked them to.
yes, tumblr is like a cockroach. it will exist. corporate leeches will try to market off of it. but it will be functionally dead. its an era thats passed, and that’s tragic in itself.
leorio bringing his first born to the hunter exam and meeting kurapika for the first time in a few years whos also bringing his children that he totally had with neon or melody whos now sexy to the hunter exam: oi good sport lets go fishing sometimes!
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