deltarune: so, hey, we’re going to open the game up with deleting your self-insert customizable character and telling you you can’t choose who to be, and then end the game with a walkaround where it’s repeatedly hammered in that kris is their own person with likes/dislikes/history/etc that you get no say in before they violently remove your influence from their life to assert themselves
some people for some reason: so, like, their gender is up to the player, right
and training your entire life to be a hero and having your father beat you regularly for failing to meet his standards and you get into the top hero school in the nation and youre gonna be in and amongst the best of the best at long last
and you look around class 1-a on day one
and like half of these kids decided they wanted to be heroes like 6 months ago
one of them just broke his hand trying to throw a baseball
what the fuck were you even training for
It’s also really depressing, considering Todoroki has essentially been abused his entire life to be at the same place as his peers who just. Have gotten here without having to undergo traumatic training basically all the time. Essentially, I’m sure it’s embittering to realize… not only did your parent abuse you your whole life so you could be the ‘best’, in the end it doesn’t make that much of a difference. It meant nothing, really, and it gave you additional setbacks, and your parent was truly warped and out of touch
as it turns out the most effective way to get what you want is to ‘look at the urls that were taken down for copyright infringement’
I think a huge part of the ignorance about aromanticism is that people fundamentally misunderstand aro relationships because they simply do not have any frame of reference for what it would be like to live without romantic feelings. Non-aro people completely miss the point when they imagine their life as exactly the same, but with the romantic feelings and relationships removed, and extrapolate that that’s what aro people’s lives are like, because for a lot of people… it’s not.
It’s the same misunderstanding when cis people try to imagine what it would be like to be trans by thinking “what if I wanted to be a boy?” and straight people imagine their partner and their relationship as exactly the same, just another gender.
That’s why we get all this bullshit where allo people act as though all relationships must fit neatly and obviously into either ‘romantic’ or ‘platonic’ categories, because… their relationships do. That’s why we hear stuff like “lol what you are describing is a friendship!” when aro people talk about QPRs, because for them, any relationship that lacks romantic affection is a friendship. Because they are not imagining their life without a relationship that is committed, incredibly intimate, exclusive, and prioritised above all others.
Aro people can still desire a level of intimacy and commitment with somebody that everybody else gets from romantic relationships, without wanting a romance: sharing everything – space, money, belongings, time – having a level of emotional and even physical intimacy that is not common in friendships, being committed to one another, making that relationship a priority above other things in your life, basing major life decisions around that relationship… these are all things that most people fulfil through romantic relationships, and aro people can desire that kind of intimacy without feeling or wanting romance.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if you don’t understand QPRs or the aro experience. You don’t have to understand it to respect it. At some point you have to acknowledge that you don’t understand because you have not experienced it, you have no frame of reference for it, and you will never really know what it’s like because those are not one of those people. The validity of aro people’s experiences does not hinge on whether or not non-aro people understand or accept them.
Toby Fox: hey everyone please download my new computer virus consenually and make sure you don’t talk about it for 24 hours or I’ll explode your computer
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