Tag: i talk

look: tragic queer historical story about boarding school is actually where a lot of our depressing tropes regarding lgbt fiction originate from, but it gets me every time. ‘dark boarding school story drama?’ fuck im in!

honestly ive seen both the ‘chara is abusive’ and ‘chara isn’t abusive’ meta and i don’t… not a fan of either, for different reasons with both

at this rate we deserve some middle ground meta like ‘there is some implicit abuse there and that’s really important to consider with az and his backstory, but you know. traumatized children and cycles and even for the best of people we have to work really hard’ we deserve MIDDLE gROUND meta damnit. this stuff isn’t easy, not in this world, the fictional world, or any other

me and @el0himapologist were spitballing and they said maybe it was good to post it. i think an interesting thing is, when we get to discussions on abuse they’ve stopped becoming about the actual victim or what it means for the characters. instead it’s about who should be vilified. but for children especially, picking up abusive habits when you have been exposed to trauma yourself is… just expected? it’s the normalization of things, of the ways you interact with people, of what is okay to say to people, of what boundaries you are allowed to have and what boundaries other people are allowed to have.

constantly i’ve seen it talked about as this thing where an abuser is 100% always on, cartoonish. but the truth is, they are complex people. and this is important for… multiple reasons. it’s important for dissecting and recognizing real world abuse, and it’s important for, well, having compassion for children who have picked up abusive behaviour.